Ah, what a fucker.linguoboy wrote:But in a weird coincidence, I'd written about the incident in a bit more detail in my online journal, and today some person I don't really know (apparently we have one mutual acquaintance, who I only know from online) showed up and posted a comment to the effect of, "You had it coming".
In my final year of high school, I lost almost all of my friends. I found out that very few people liked me and everyone turned their back on me or turned against me except for my best friend and pretty much only one other friend (who I wasn't super close with back then). Years later, I was friends again with one of the ones who deserted me and I brought it up (not specifically that but everyone) and he just told me "Well, you can't really complain about that because you brought it on yourself." Like, yeah, at the time when everyone was starting to talk about who they really were and what they wanted to do after school, I was going through the worst time of my life. I could see no future. I was self-harming and suicidal and I avoided real conversations by changing the topic, making sound effects, doing stupid attention seeking things and to feel a bit closer to people, and in a weird way, let them know that I wasn't doing so well, I opened up to a couple of my friends by making up some pretty ridiculous horrible lies about me because I couldn't talk about the truth. Basically, I was an idiot, so I understand why I lost friends. I know I probably sucked to be around and none of the deserters really knew what was going on with me, so there was no reason for anyone to really care ... and this is why I gave people a second chance when I got more normal and cooler after highschool, but yeah, no, when someone tells you you deserved to lose all your friends at the worst time in your life, I guess you take that second chance back. And it's not like I had the self-esteem at the time to make that kind of decision consciously - I've just been unable to really give much of a shit about this guy since then. So when someone tells you you deserved to be physically assaulted ... holy fucking shit!