Venting thread that still excludes eddy (2)

[jal]

Mom: Why the hell don't you ever do anything but surf the web!?

Well, maybe she was talking more generally than that specific dishwashing thing. Maybe she didn't mean "surf the web i/o chores" but more like "surf the web i/o doing sports, going out with friends etc.".

Great to hear that your self-imposed rules work. Something to feel good about!


JAL

[Viktor77]

Ok we made it to Sweden. But I feel the need to say that the controls on the Danish-Swedish border are ridiculous. It's as if Schengen didn't even exist, I was honestly waiting for my passport stamp to Sweden....The agents are extremely strict. Our bus was not only controlled, it was pulled inside, we were forced out, people were questioned harshly, where are you going, what's the address, how much baggage you have, as if being controlled between Canada and the US. In the end 2 people were kicked off and taken into policy custody. It was simply incredulous. My husband and I barely got a second look and I'm almost 100% sure that was due strictly to privilege because I saw who they were questioning. The whole process took a good half hour or more.

Anyway it was a frightful experience. If Sweden wants to control their borders like this, fine, but they should leave Schengen because even though I'm not European even I can tell this is not in the spirit of Schengen.

PS: Danish-German border control is considerably less strict. They look at your passport page and let you go. The 2 people who were detained in Malmö passed right through Danish controls.

[finlay]

I always look forward to the pride march, which was today, so when it's disappointing I feel really let down.

Basically it was too crowded and just pushed a lot of anxiety buttons for me. It was also tiring and dehydrating to walk around, and it was pretty hot. And I'm still upset that my boyfriend couldn't come – for the fourth time. I still think we're not on the same page in terms of expectations.

[jmcd]

I don't want to put too much of a damper on things, but if someone refuses to come to an activity four times, I think it's safe to assume that they don't even want to. Has he ever come?

[finlay]

Duh, and that's what annoys me.

[jmcd]

Have you spoken to him about the fact that it annoys you?

[jmcd]

Do yous know what's up with the phone code for Twitter registration? I'm wanting to register to answer back https://twitter.com/tarekfatah but it asks me for a code it supposedly sends my SMS but it never sends.

[finlay]

I dunno man maybe it can't send to Reunion. Just sign up online.

[jmcd]

I tried signing up online. I don't even see why they need me to check with my phone anyway. I have tried asking their support service as well.

[gach]

That does sound strange but unfortunately not entirely unexpected. I had my gmail accounts disabled for one year when I had a position on the Canaries. Their justification was simply that "someone has accessed your account from Spain". When I tried to get the confirmation text sent to my phone, that I really was who I claimed to be, it simply never arrived. In the end I reclaimed the accounts after settling back in Finland. Good job Google, well done.

[jmcd]

Oh well at least I'm not the only one. Luckily I have a young fogey phone my family sent for video calls with a UK SIM. I should figure out what the number for the constantly decharging thing is.

[jal]

Ukraine first???? Come on... That's not even remotely funny.


JAL

[Viktor77]

Ukraine first???? Come on... That's not even remotely funny.


JAL

I voted for Ukraine. Ukraine, Latvia and Austria. I want to go to Ukraine next year for ESC if I can. I'm a bit worried about the country, esp. the LGBT aspect of Eurovision though.

You guys had a good song though, I liked Douwe. I coincidentally met more Dutch people than any other nationality at ESC oddly (well besides Swedish).

[jal]

I voted for Ukraine.

Really? I liked Poland, Austria, Russia, Australia, Israel and Georgia, of the top of my head. I also didn't think Germany was that bad. The Ukranian song, all geopolitics aside, was pretty crappy, imho. One of the worst. I felt sorry for Australia. Stupid 2-step voting...

You guys had a good song though, I liked Douwe.

He did allright. I didn't like the song very much though. It's a bit boring, and too much of a "let's immitate the Common Linnets pseudo-country-pop-style because they got to #2 with it" attitude.

I coincidentally met more Dutch people than any other nationality at ESC oddly (well besides Swedish).

It's quite popular over here, among a broad section of the populus. I'm not sure whether it enjoys a similar reception in other European countries.


JAL

EDIT: Forgot Israel.

[Chagen]

Holy shit my mom's narcissism and absurd ego is going to make me fucking kill someone. If she can't impose herself on everyone and drive everyone else crazy she's being "censored". And I just went through half an hour of her insulting me and calling me the narcissistic one. Also accusations of being gay. I don't want to come out just yet...

Listening to a person fellate themselves for an hour straight is exhausting. My mom has basically spent the last hour talking about how she's amazing and how I'm shit.

[Imralu]

Listening to a person fellate themselves for an hour straight is exhausting. My mom has basically spent the last hour talking about how she's amazing and how I'm shit.

Sounds shitty. I always used to wish I had a tape recorder to tape the bullshit various people in my family say and then play it back to them, their own words, at the right moment to show them how fucking ridiculous they are. It never happened. Even then, they probably wouldn't get my point.

My vent is that I'm annoyed at my brain ... no news there ... but it's just being so stupid right now. Mr Handsome Arab Man, the guy who I've been dating for less than a week, is really busy with two jobs and has no time to see me until sometime next week. Not an issue at all - it's going well and I don't want to see someone too often anyway. But any more than about a day after I get undeniable reassurance that he's really interested in me, my brain starts finding all the reasons why he's probably already probably lost interest and why it could never work out between us ... and why it could never work out with anyone. The last time it happened, just as I was going to bed, he wrote to me out of the blue basically that he can't get me out of his mind. My mind clearly has a tendency to jump to wrong conclusions. He really seems very stable, so I don't see why his interest would just disappear a matter of days for no reason but my brain is just insisting on being sad without constant reassurance. Like, I can't believe someone this fucking amazing could ever be into me. I guess my brain is trying to protect me from hurt, but I wish it could take the middle road, look at it as a "take every day as it comes" thing but instead it's oscillating between all and nothing and I wish it wouldn't because (A) it could cause me to be overreact to something and fuck up something that's going well (I've done that before) and (B) ... this is exactly why I resisted looking for a relationship for a very long time. I don't regret it though ... I'm so glad I've met him. I just wish my brain would chill the fuck out. I know when my brain's being stupid ... but it still controls how I feel ...

[Vijay]

I think I can relate to that pretty easily, but however irrational our thoughts may be, it still helps not to judge them. You already realize that they're not likely to be true, which is already a great thing in itself on your part! Maybe if you just let them come as they are and don't (or try not to) get frustrated with them, they'll disappear over time anyway (and IIUC how long it takes for them to disappear varies from one person to another).

[Travis B.]

Great. I am becoming depressed, for the first time in ages. And depression is terrible for my work performance, which would be highly unfortunate since I like my job and so far have been doing very well at it so far. I was hoping that this would be a position where I could actually use the people I worked with as references for future jobs once my contract was up.

This is what I get for allowing my psych to reduce some of my meds; mind you that happened last October, but my mood has not been quite as stable as it used to be afterwards, so it was only a matter of time before my intermittant spells of hypomania would turn into depression...

[Koko]

Today was so good in school. I properly enjoyed my classes, nothing too boring in any of them. And I got a favourite teacher to sign my TA application form! It was great, 'cause that means I have him once in each semester next year! Only issue I had was that I forgot I had a scone in the fridge I meant to take for lunch

So I get home, and immediately feeling like killing myself First, my hair was already on my nerves thanks to the wind making me eat my bangs on the way home. So at home it's all gross and doing this weird curve around my glasses so it goes under my neck: the most annoying thing it does and it drives me insane! I'm like, at least I get to eat my scone… but I open the fridge to find the scone I specifically wrapped up for myselfcthe previous day has been taken. There werextwo freakin' others, but that one was set aside apart from them. . . . making it known it was mine! But of course someone takes it I'm frickin' hot then, which makes me feel gross, and my hair gets even greasier! I already wanted to get it cut, so I say screw it and grab a pair of scissors and cut the part of my bangs that was being the most retarded. Not caring how it looked. My glasses needed to be cleaned but I didn't do anything about it, now being in a weird angry/apathetic mood (can you be both angry and apathetic at the same time?*). I don't even know why getting home just immediately put me in such an angry, aggressive mood. And then friggin' mom has to be all "Supper's going to be ready soon" in a way to say "So feed the pets." I say sure, acknowledging this hidden message, but then she goes a couple minutes later "You know, I kinda meant that you'd feed the pets." I'm so done. Frickin' people… and her frickin' boyfriend is so annoying. Supper's done, I say "In my room," what's their response? "Hope you're in a better mood when you come out"

. . . . .

Frickin' kill me. Great thing to say to someone who is literally on the verge of going berserk! "Hope you're in a-" That just puts me in a worse mood!!! Ready to die, and you say that. Yep, totes in a better mood now! Thanks!

Die

I don't care who you are. If you think saying anything like that doesn't negatively impact someone's mood, die. It's the most aggravating sentence to hear.

This is why I frickin' hate hearing people talk. It's awful, garbage noise that only annoys me. Solitary confinement is probly the only sanctuary I will ever find on this planet… but I'd have to prove myself a real threat to society to be sentenced there. Crap

* I honestly don't really care for an answer. it's rhetorical

[Vijay]

Koko, I'm very sorry to hear that. If you don't mind me asking, are you okay? How do you feel now?

[Travis B.]

That really does suck. I absolutely hate moods like that. And there's not a damn thing one can do about them aside from call one's psych, if one has one, wait till they can get you in, and hope however they will adjust one's meds will make it go away as soon as possible, and if one doesn't have a psych, simply wait, since they never last forever (and even if one does, waiting may be more effective than med changes, since it may very well have ended by the time one gets to one's psych).

[Koko]

not really better today. I thought I was, but once again I get home and mom tells me to bring the friggin garbage bin up the driveway. Worst chore ever. So simple I don't see why I should be slaved into doing it. And it's raining, which means my hand will get friggin wet. and I have to pull it up two friggin steps. It's just plastic, but that stuff is heavy when you have to drag up steps! I just want to relax when get home. Not have to instantly do some stupid-ass job >.>

it's such a stupid thing to get so mad about

[jmcd]

The chores I don't like are the ones where you're like at it for hours and then your mum's like "you missed a bit: there, and there, and there etc".

[jal]

it's such a stupid thing to get so mad about

It is. I don't think putting out the garbage is a very unreasonable request. May I ask what age you are?


JAL

[linguoboy]

it's such a stupid thing to get so mad about

It is. I don't think putting out the garbage is a very unreasonable request.

It isn't. But having to bring an empty garbage bin in from the curb? Up two whole steps? When there's water falling? That's totally like slavery.