OK, this has gone past arguing with a weird friend, and into a bunch of amateurs dealing with a severely dysfunctional individual. I'm closing the Eddythread.To Eddy
: You're welcome on the board, but no more complaining. This thread is no longer helping you, if it ever was. You need professional help.
You're welcome to PM me if you do not understand this, or wish to disagree with my decision, or just want to talk about practical help. But this isn't the place for complaints about your life and prospects; only a professional can help you there.To everyone else
: I think the Eddythread is the sort of situation described in The Dance of Anger
: someone attempts to deal with a difficult or oppressive relationship by (among other things) venting to a set of confidants. The venting makes them feel better for a bit, but ultimately it's counter-productive, because they vent instead of changing the primary relationship. And if they don't get the kind of validation they want, they can get manipulative, which I think is what's going on with the suicide threats.
You can continue discussions with him in PM, of course, especially if there are practical aids you can provide. But I would encourage people to reinforce the need for professional help, which means not trying to play therapist ourselves. I know this is counter-intuitive; God knows I've had my share of thinking one more really well written post will make Eddy see reason. But the confidant role is not helping, and by delaying real therapy is probably hurting.
Please do not start more threads to discuss Eddy. You can PM me if you have concerns about all this.
If Eddy tries to complain about his life in other threads, please don't respond; use the reporting mechanism instead.Edit, Sep. 2012
: No one is supposed to make racist remarks here, but that and too many comments about his personal life got Eddy a tempban recently. He will be closely watched.
Please note, do not troll Eddy
. I know it can be amusing, but it's disruptive. I won't have much tolerance for complaints about Eddy's misbehavior if he was incited into it.