I'm not going to get any sympathy for this, but it is a relationship problem nonetheless.
My problem is not finding relationships, but trying to keep the people I care about to stop f*king trying to get with me when I am happily in a relationship. So basically my problem is trying to stop the barrage of unwanted advances.
I'm happy with my current boyfriend. We've been together since June , but our time together has been hampered by the long line of ex-bfs, "friends" and former supervisors who are either blatantly trying to ask me out, trying to get back with me, or declaring their undying love for me when they know full well I am in a relationship.
Its gotten so bad that my current boyfriend's friends have nicknamed him "Scott Pilgrim" since he constantly has to step between me and the people coming after me and he is visibly pissed at that. I'm already starting to feel that he's cracking from the pressure of being my "protector" even though he isnt required to be that.
The worst are those guys who are already in relationships/married and still have no problem in trying to get with me. Just a few hours ago I was at the Cheesecake Factory bar with a former boss of mine who was all upset about how he was fired from the newspaper we worked at. I was comforting him with the fact that he was at least still alive, unlike my former supervisor whose funeral I'm attending on Saturday. At the end of the night he was basically confessing that he was attracted to me when I first introduced myself to him in the office 3 years ago and wanted to "spend more time with me, keep me company." He said other things that greatly alarmed me, especially since I've met his wife on several occasions as she is in my industry.
He's not the first married man to do this to me and I doubt he'd be the last. I'm hoping to confront him later to ask if he really meant those things or if it was the vodka talking. When I dropped my boyfriend off to work I told him what happened and I could tell he's about had enough. I'm just really upset that this is happening and wish they all can just leave me in peace. I really like my boyfriend and want him to stick around, but if he feels like he has to fight over me and decides its too much effort I don't think the relationship will last