Thanksvampireshark wrote:Loving the smile, though, looks like you got your picture taken in a place you were confortable.
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Thanksvampireshark wrote:Loving the smile, though, looks like you got your picture taken in a place you were confortable.
Wow that looks so little how I remember you, especially your cheeks. I thought I remember them being more appley, but hey the last time I saw one of your SCAdian pictures was like 2008 or so, so the memory is rather fuzzy.Hokulani wrote:I guess I should put a more recent photo of myself.
I hope I look more or less the same.
Um... xD I can tell when a girl is good-looking or ugly, you know, just like any straight guy can tell when a guy is good-looking or ugly (however hard they try to pretend they can't). (And Hokulani, you are pretty.)Shm Jay wrote:I think Torco will be able to explain what I mean better, but Astraios not in the slightest bit
Because I’m twice her age! And only twice her age rather than three times. "Ewww, blechhh, some middle-aged man finds me cute..." rather than "Awww, sweet, an old man finds me cute...". So I have to hide behind someone her age.Torco wrote:What's wrong with just saying you find her cute, Jay?
meaning I'm immune to coming off as creepy because of my irresistible charisma? I was as much of an awkward kid as anyone, growing up... I was fat, shy, overbearingly friendly and outright clunky. I just mean older women aren't creeped by younger men taking an interest, and younger guys don't [or do we?] get creeped out by older women taking an interest, so why do ounger chicks should get creeped by interest by older dudes? [which they only do if the dude doesn't have a lot of money, but...dhokarena56 wrote:Yes, but you're you.
Because of the power relationship/increased potential for abuse, obviously, sort of like how being propositioned by a strange man in an elevator at 3 AM is creepy. I thought were were some kind of social scientist, here?Torco wrote:so why do ounger chicks should get creeped by interest by older dudes?
Seriously?[which they only do if the dude doesn't have a lot of money, but...
and beause I'm a social scientist I need to disregard culture and assume emotions are always rational, on the way naturalizing "the way things are" ?Because of the power relationship/increased potential for abuse, obviously, sort of like how being propositioned by a strange man in an elevator at 3 AM is creepy. I thought were were some kind of social scientist, here?
No, because this is culture. It's not "emotion". When someone has the power to (and/or is likely to) physically hurt you, or use social position to force you to do something, this is not some kind of "emotional" fact that will go away if you just think happy thoughts, or some bullshit.Torco wrote:and beause I'm a social scientist I need to disregard culture and assume emotions are always rational
And it often is. Imagine that.if that hypotheses is right, then it would also be creepy for a girl to be approached for a guy that's very large, or larger than her, has a lot more money, has a lot more swagger or charisma, or knows everyone in the party while she does not.
When you see a police officer with a firearm, do you often become afraid that he'll shoot you?faiuwle wrote:When someone has the power to (and/or is likely to) physically hurt you, or use social position to force you to do something, this is not some kind of "emotional" fact that will go away if you just think happy thoughts, or some bullshit.
Yes, of course. Don't you?Bob Johnson wrote:When you see a police officer with a firearm, do you often become afraid that he'll shoot you?faiuwle wrote:When someone has the power to (and/or is likely to) physically hurt you, or use social position to force you to do something, this is not some kind of "emotional" fact that will go away if you just think happy thoughts, or some bullshit.
nah, because you don't culturally expect them to shoot you. unless you're at a demonstration, in which case you *are* afraid of cops, cause they mace you and imprison you. similarly, girls culturally expect older men interested in them to be psychos, or some of them do. and faiuwle does appear to have a point, in that said cultural expectation might be accurate.Bob Johnson wrote:When you see a police officer with a firearm, do you often become afraid that he'll shoot you?faiuwle wrote:When someone has the power to (and/or is likely to) physically hurt you, or use social position to force you to do something, this is not some kind of "emotional" fact that will go away if you just think happy thoughts, or some bullshit.
Yes. They're police.Torco wrote:@pthug: seriously? you're afraid of cops shooting you?
Not usually, no. But some do. The regular kind are bad enough.Torco wrote:do policemen there not carry handguns ?
It really depends what he's doing and how visible the firearm is, but in most cases it does put you on your toes, yes. That is reason they carry them, after all. It's rational to be careful around people you don't personally know carrying firearms, especially when they probably wouldn't get in any trouble if they did decide to shoot you.Bob Johnson wrote:When you see a police officer with a firearm, do you often become afraid that he'll shoot you?faiuwle wrote:When someone has the power to (and/or is likely to) physically hurt you, or use social position to force you to do something, this is not some kind of "emotional" fact that will go away if you just think happy thoughts, or some bullshit.
No, it's not that all (or most) men are psychos - it's that in most cases, men have the ability to abuse, manipulate, threaten, or otherwise coerce women without most of the bystanders considering them to be anything but perfectly normal, nice guys. I'm sure most men wouldn't do that, but there's always the possibility that they will, and a woman usually has little or no defense against it. Things like age/size/power/etc. just make this more likely to turn out badly.Torco wrote:similarly, girls culturally expect older men interested in them to be psychos, or some of them do. and faiuwle does appear to have a point, in that said cultural expectation might be accurate.
[X] wrong.Astraios wrote:You look much better with hair, Torco.
I do believe you're using the wrong grading key.din wrote:[X] wrong.Astraios wrote:You look much better with hair, Torco.
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Where the hell do you live?faiuwle wrote:No, it's not that all (or most) men are psychos - it's that in most cases, men have the ability to abuse, manipulate, threaten, or otherwise coerce women without most of the bystanders considering them to be anything but perfectly normal, nice guys. I'm sure most men wouldn't do that, but there's always the possibility that they will, and a woman usually has little or no defense against it. Things like age/size/power/etc. just make this more likely to turn out badly.
I don't think you're using that word right.faiuwle wrote:stigmatized