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Re: The coping thread

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Anguipes wrote:I fail at coping. Hence I am a barely functioning wreck. Maybe all this could have been avoided if only I had acquired a taste for alcohol (seriously, that stuff is foul).
-minus the alcohol thing.
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Torco wrote:Driving. not rush hour driving, but road driving, often helps me feel better. It makes me feel like the whole world is open and out there, waiting, and that perspective makes whatever bothers me seem less terrible.
This. I like taking walks as well, but driving around for hours (particularly at night, and in a long uninterrupted stretch, like an old swamp road or an interstate) either by myself or with a friend who doesn't mind silence punctuated by occasional chit-chat really seems to calm my nerves.

As for other methods, it depends on what I'm dealing with. If the cause of the stress is outside of my direct social circle (e.g. family, school, etc), as it usually is, then I'll go hang out with my girlfriend to calm my nerves. Given that it usually has to do with my family, sometimes I'll drink to untense my mind a bit.

When the stress is socially based, I generally feel a lot more hopeless, so I try to work through the stress logically. If that fails, I usually call my mom (who lives several states away) and pour my thoughts there. Otherwise, if it's more transient, I can usually just listen to music or watch something light to keep my mind off it until I feel better.

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Listening to heavy, industrial, black, death, symphonic death, technical death, symphonic technical death metal etc. is also good when I'm blue.
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technical death
sounds like a penalty in a dystiopianly future sport.

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Drinking alone and crying.

As a 28 year old single female, I feel like a fucking stereotype.
Yup.

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25 years and I still drink alone

and I still cry

I'd love to be able to do both at the same time, but I can't for whatever reason.

also, as of late, literature has been helping me deal with bullshit... and talking to myself.

hugs to jlyne... and a grabbing of the ass, if she so wishes. :P

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Torco wrote:25 years and I still drink alone

and I still cry

I'd love to be able to do both at the same time, but I can't for whatever reason.

also, as of late, literature has been helping me deal with bullshit... and talking to myself.

hugs to jlyne... and a grabbing of the ass, if she so wishes. :P
I'm ok with an ass grab.

It'd be nice if someone, I dunno, hugged me or something once instead of going straight for the tits and ass, but that is too lofty a goal for someone such as me.

So grab away.
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jlyne wrote:
Torco wrote:25 years and I still drink alone

and I still cry

I'd love to be able to do both at the same time, but I can't for whatever reason.

also, as of late, literature has been helping me deal with bullshit... and talking to myself.

hugs to jlyne... and a grabbing of the ass, if she so wishes. :P
I'm ok with an ass grab.

It'd be nice if someone, I dunno, hugged me or something once instead of going straight for the tits and ass, but that is too lofty a goal for someone such as me.

So grab away.
How's a bone-crushing bear hug sound?

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Torco wrote:So how do you deal with suffering?
When possible, I procrastinate it. Pretend it's not going to happen. Right up until it does, at which point things sort of crash, and I'm so busy trying to get through it all that I don't suffer.

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valiums: is that watsky?
jlyne wrote:It'd be nice if someone, I dunno, hugged me or something once instead of going straight for the tits and ass, but that is too lofty a goal for someone such as me.
you deserve love and hugs. you're a funny, clever and sweet girl, as far as I've been able to see.
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hugscratchbehindtheearhugshugshugshugs

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jlyne wrote:I'm ok with an ass grab.

It'd be nice if someone, I dunno, hugged me or something once instead of going straight for the tits and ass, but that is too lofty a goal for someone such as me.

So grab away.
Hug females. Regardless of sexual orientation, girls are less grabby. Hug straight females, and no worries about grabbing at all.
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Torco wrote: you deserve love and hugs. you're a funny, clever and sweet girl, as far as I've been able to see.
hugshugshugshughugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshug
shugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugs
hugshughugshugshugshugshugshugshushugshugshugshugshugshugs
hughugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshug
hugscratchbehindtheearhugshugshugshugs
Internet pity hugs are still hugs :)
Jashan wrote: Hug females. Regardless of sexual orientation, girls are less grabby. Hug straight females, and no worries about grabbing at all.
None of the girls I know are touchy-feely, at least not with me. Besides, I don't talk about my shit with people offline, with the exception of one person, and he's not a hugger (except when we're shitfaced).
Yup.

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Re: The coping thread

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Damn, you, google... reading chat conversations with one's ex is like cheap red wine: it's delicious, but it starts making you feel like shit after a while.

nostalgia is a way to cope, rite?

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Upbeat music usually does the trick. Apathy is harder.
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When I can, I walk away. A need for nicotine is always a good excuse.

When I can't ... I'll either turn hyper-professional and calm, or I'll turn sarcastic.

I rarely turn violent, though I've fisted my fair share of walls and light switches over the years ...
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Rik wrote:I rarely turn violent, though I've fisted my fair share of walls and light switches over the years ...
oh, me too... though firing guns really takes most of the agression out of your system. I recommend.

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Torco wrote:
Rik wrote:I rarely turn violent, though I've fisted my fair share of walls and light switches over the years ...
oh, me too... though firing guns really takes most of the agression out of your system. I recommend.
I was brought up with guns. Never really got any satisfaction from pulling the trigger - just meant I'd have to clean the bugger afterwards.

Cat and/or dog stroking is a good rage sink.

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Cat and/or dog stroking is a good rage sink.
ow, poor cat xD

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Torco wrote:
Cat and/or dog stroking is a good rage sink.
ow, poor cat xD
Poor dog. If the cat is ever about to be poor, then you'll be the poor, scratched, downmeowed one.

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Eandil wrote:
Torco wrote:
Cat and/or dog stroking is a good rage sink.
ow, poor cat xD
Poor dog. If the cat is ever about to be poor, then you'll be the poor, scratched, downmeowed one.
oh, come on, don't tell me you're one of those people who think cats are actually dangerous to human beings, man

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Plenty of people died in the paws of cats in India and Bangladesh ;)
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Those cats are typically not what is referred to by the term cat, unqualified, in English.
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Torco wrote:oh, come on, don't tell me you're one of those people who think cats are actually dangerous to human beings, man
I love cats, but I've seen they can in fact (on the other hand, dogs can try to rape you).

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Why do so many ZBB threads devolve into bestiality?
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"Save us all from arrogant men/And all the causes they're for/I won't be righteous again/I'm not that sure any more." ~ Shades of Grey, Billy Joel

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